Put your RIGHT hand up if you want to strangle your children after this week; Put your LEFT hand up it you want to strangle yourself this week.
Scoring: No hands up = You are a saint, you are delusional, and/or you are exceedingly chill.
One hand up = You are normal.
Both hands up = You are REALLY normal.
Maybe this looks like your week:
Day One of 'Schooling at Home, Courtesy of the Coronavirus' - kids excited about school on Zoom, you've got a schedule built, you set up 'school', you do worksheets and/or crafts, and generally think it a success (albeit stressful).
Day Two - kids a little less excited, schedule being enforced, but motivation slipping (both for you and the kids), you're getting tired, you push through; you want to drink by 3 pm.
Day Three - kids starting to resist; gems like "you're not my teacher" and "that's not how my teacher does it" and "I don't want to do this"; you want to drink at 9 am.
Day Four - kids truly pushing back, dragging feet, not completing, not focusing (whether online or not); lots of excuses, whining, and lack of motivation (that's just you: the kids are even worse); you want to drink by 7 am.
Day Five - kids have mutinied; you've decided that a four-day school week is a reasonable compromise. You have never wanted a weekend so badly. Drinking START times....? More like when are you ENDING?
I am, of course, being flippant about the drinking - kind of. But I'm using it as a tongue-in-cheek acknowledgement of the stress level associated with this new experience.
The vast majority of people who are homeschooling have done so by choice - sometimes there's a necessity element (when things are really bad, and they have to pull their children out suddenly) - but mostly it's choice based on a personal belief system and lifestyle choice.
You probably aren't in that group.
You have had your lifestyle up-ended, and here you sit, trying to sort this all out, and now your kids aren't playing nice.
At this point you have several options:
1) Give up;
2) Force everyone to continue your mandated 'school at home' schedule, modelled on brick-and-mortar school experiences,
come hell or high water;
3) Pause to catch your breath - which is not the same as giving up, then start again;
4) Wait to see how long this lasts, and if it goes beyond 2 weeks, start to think about schooling at home;
5) Adapt by reconfiguring your schedule, subjects, tasks, outcomes, and teaching style;
6) Hire someone to teach your kids online;
7) Pray for this to be over quickly;
8) Start a gratitude fund for every school teacher you've ever known; and/or
9) Become an educator-by-professional (post-Coronavirus, post-more education), because you kick ass at this schooling
Whatever your reality, you are in uncharted waters, in a boat you might not know how to steer (see my Lifejackets post for more perspective on this).
I chose the blog title as "Resistance is Futile", and many of you will know that this pays homage to the Borg Collective in Start Trek: The Next Generation". It's the catch-phrase for the idea that the Borg, once they've made contact with a new civilization, will assimilate them - therefore, resistance is futile.
For me, that phrase resonates a little differently: I'm not suggesting that resistance to homeschooling is futile ('cause it's going to happen) or that resistance to your children is futile (it might be - only you know ;-) or that your children's resistance to YOU is futile (my money's on the kids). What I AM suggesting is the resistance to this situation is futile. You can't wish it away, avoid it, transplant traditional school into the home setting (PLENTY has been written on THAT).
How each of us handles these realities in the coming days will determine whether we keep our balance and - to some degree - autonomy, or whether we collapse and allow ourselves to succumb to the various pressures around us - up to and including deluding ourselves into the idea "going out for frisbee with neighbours is OK". I think you get the idea.
Resources, supports, and so on, can be found on this site, as it develops.
Be safe, be well. Until soon, xo d
Hello! My name is Donna, and I'm a home-educator (10+years) of two gifted boys (now grades 9/10 and 6/7). My PhD is in Education (Curriculum, Teaching and Learning), and I'm a Certified Professional Coach (CPC). I own two companies - Raconteur Spoken Arts Studio and The Eloquence Equation (website being revamped as we speak!). Check out my 'About' page for more dirt! ~cheers~ donna
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